How to Overcome a Lifetime of Conditioning

Guest Author: Priscilla Parham

Are you currently in the habit of experiencing unwanted events in your life over and over again? When we experience unwanted events over and over in life we can feel like a victim of circumstance, becoming annoyed at the injustice of life.

Little do most realize that these seemingly random events or obstacles stem from a lifetime of conditioned beliefs. Beliefs that run on auto-pilot in the background of our lives, producing fear and doubt.

Fears that often get us stuck in a lifetime of trying to overcome obstacles, creating a victim mentality. When we experience the very obstacles we are trying to avoid, we use this as a justification for our fear in the first place, because a fearful mind looks for what is wrong.

Occasionally being stuck in a rut is natural but there has to be a point when enough is enough. If you’ve been doing a lot of talking, it’s time to start the action part. Become active in your vision of a better life.

So how do you overcome a lifetime of conditioning?

First and foremost we need to question the validity of our fears. Stop and look for what is right about the situation, instead of wrong. There is a definite need to move from focus on the unwanted events to finding and making the solution our focal point.

Next, it’s time to replace old beliefs and create real change. The best way to surrender the comfort of a lifetime of old fearful conditioned beliefs is to establish a new trust; a trust in yourself to create and direct pleasant events and solutions into your life. The same trust and confidence that you have, that your name is –, that you weigh –, that your height is –, and that you live at –.

So how do you create trust and confidence?

We will use this 100 percent surety that you are who you believe you are and sit in front of a large mirror.

In front of your mirror repeat each of these statements or affirmations 3 times:

1) I am (insert your name) and I love myself.

2) I am God and I love myself.

3)  I and God are one and I love myself.

4) All is well and I am safe.

It does not matter whether you laugh or cry, just develop this into a habit. Surrender to the good that is inside you. Habitually expecting trust and confidence in the goodness of life produces trust and confidence in the goodness of life. Any chronic negative beliefs stem from a lifetime of belief in fear or lack thereby creating unwanted events and obstacles over and over again, which only offer solidifying reinforcement in the original belief.

Does this mean that nothing unpleasant will ever happen? Of course not, it means that nothing happens to make us feel afraid.  We come to see the validity in creating good feeling and beliefs for ourselves.

James Allen may have said it best, ‘People are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound.’

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About the Author

Priscilla Parham coaches on awareness and goal setting for your health, your business and your relationships, motivating and inspiring others to rebuild from the inside-out.

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The amazing thing about affirmations is that they really do work.  I started doing daily affirmations at a time in my life when I was desperate to see changes.  I had a new baby, the father was no longer around.  I was on my own, trying to find a way to support me and my child.  I had no job, no money and a very unstable home life.

I initially learned the concept of affirmations at church.  Like many from the church culture, I was taught that life and death were in the power of the tongue.  I am from the “name it and claim it” church era, so I received my initial understanding of the power of words from my religious upbringing.  However, as time went on and I continued to seek for a better life; I learned to recognize and honor the Universal Laws and specifically, the Law of Attraction.  I decided that I had nothing to lose by believing I could speak and think into existence the life I wanted. 

First I noticed that I enjoyed the positive energy that flowed to me each day when I started with my Affirmations and I noticed the difference on the days when I didn’t.  I soon discovered that affirmations kept my eyes on the prize.  I didn’t get depressed or discouraged whenever I was consistently using them. When circumstances were really bad, I would repeat my affirmations twice a day.  Once in the morning and once in the evening before I went to bed. I begin to feel a peace on the inside; a knowing that something good was happening for me.  I watched my life change before my eyes and was able to check things off my list of affirmations with total amazement.  Things that initially seemed so out of reach began to manifest without my assistance whatsoever.  The path that opened before me coincided with the words that I was speaking over my life.  At that point, the power of affirmations; the power of deliberate focus became real to me.

My daily affirmations list is tweaked and revised often to make room for my personal growth and transformations.  My desires have grown and evolved so the things that I affirm has evolved to meet my need to expand.  Affirmations keep us inspired to grow and experience new life.  They are great for helping you to stay focused on that which you want to create in life and not current circumstances or fears of unwanted outcomes.  Affirmations will help you to manifest your best life. 

If our thoughts create our reality, then affirmations give them a voice.  I enjoy speaking my affirmations out loud.  It is important that you express them with positive emotions for the feelings you use to express your affirmations give them power.  I admonish you to try using them in your daily life.  Make a conscious decision everyday to speak positive words over your dreams and your thoughts.  You will be amazed as you watch the life you desire unfold before your very eyes.  It takes time to create a new reality.  So be patient.  It will truly be worth the effort.

One of my first and most favorite resources on affirmations is Joan Sotkin’s Prosperity Place.  Please visit this wonderful and informative site.  I know you will find it to be rich with wisdom.  My favorite teaching by Joan is “Prosperity Is An Inside Job”.  This book changed my life and I have followed her teachings over the years ever since.

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Law of Vibration – The Key to Understanding the Law of Attraction

Guest Author: Yvonne Ellis

Of all the universal laws, the law of attraction is both the most fascinating and the most misunderstood. Fascinating, because as humans we naturally want a tool to help create the life of our dreams, and the law of attraction can certainly help us to do that. Misunderstood because, unlike a tool that we can pull out and use now and again but is otherwise inactive, the law of attraction is operating in our lives constantly and independently, whether we are consciously aware of it, or believe in it, or not.

In other words, there is no need to engage the law of attraction, it is already at work in your life and always will be. So long as you are alive and breathing, the law of attraction is at work. This is great news! You are already using the law of attraction to create everything in your life whether you realise it or not. The results that you are experiencing: your career, finances, relationships, health, home, community, and so on, are a direct result of the law of attraction and your interaction with it in the form of thoughts and feelings.

If you’re not creating the kind of life you want though, chances are you are creating by default, allowing the law of attraction to bring you more and more of the same. Unfortunately, we weren’t handed a life manual at birth and, for many of us, our parents were not aware of the law of attraction and so did not teach us. At Attract Like Magic we are dedicated to helping you understand this powerful universal law and how you can begin to use the law of attraction to consciously create the life of your dreams. On the Attract Like Magic site, and in upcoming newsletters and articles, we will explore everything to do with the law of attraction and provide tools that will help you to harness its power.

But in order to really understand the law of attraction, you first need to understand another of the universal laws, the law of vibration.

Law of Vibration

According to the law of vibration everything is made of energy and has a distinct frequency or vibration. With the advent of powerful enough technology, science now agrees. Quantum physicists have shown that, although matter may appear to be solid, when you look at it through a high-powered microscope so that it is broken down into its smallest components: molecules, atoms, neutrons, electrons and quanta (the smallest particles measurable), it is ultimately mostly empty space interspersed with energy.

In other words, at the quantum level, everything is comprised of energy and empty space and what makes you, your home, your car, the chair you’re sitting in, seem solid is the frequency of the vibration of the energy that makes it up.  Not only does your body and all that you consider to be “you” have a distinct and unique vibration (or more correctly a mix of vibrations), but your creations, in the form of thoughts, also have distinct vibrations which affect or blend with your overall vibration.  In turn, your vibrations affect everything around you – your environment, the people and animals around you, the inanimate objects, even the seemingly ‘empty’ space and they, in turn, affect you. That’s why, when you walk into a room where there was an earlier argument, you can sense it. We even use terms like “bad vibes”, “you can feel the tension”, and “you could cut the air in here with a knife” to describe it. In each case what we are referring to is the energy imprint of the earlier occupants.

Similarly, you may have gone to someone’s home, office or business where, as soon as you entered, you felt the “good vibes” that filled the place. That’s because, over time, a place becomes imbued with the energy imprints of the dominant vibrations of the people who live or work there. So a home, for example, can literally become filled with love or tension or anger or sadness or any other emotion, and that home will feel that way to a visitor even if none of the regular occupants are at home at the time. If you’ve ever entered such a place you may even have noticed how you just relaxed and felt good in response to the “good vibes” around you. Of course, the extent to which you take on the vibrations of the people and things around you is up to you – but for most people, this is not a conscious decision. So, you are giving off vibrations every second of every day. You are also simultaneously receiving and translating the vibrations of everything and everyone around you. If we use the analogy of television, you are both a television transmitter, beaming out your own unique station, and also a television set or receiver, able to tune in to all the stations or frequencies being broadcast around you. Sometimes we refer to these incoming vibrations as intuition or “gut feelings”.

So how do you know what your vibration is at any moment?

Simple – ask yourself how you are feeling.

Your emotions are a quick and handy guide to your vibration in any moment. If you feel loving, you are vibrating at the frequency of love; if you feel angry, you are vibrating at the frequency of anger; if you feel curious, you are vibrating at the frequency of curiosity, and those vibrations are received by everything and everyone around you. You are also, through the law of attraction, bringing to you more experiences that will match this vibration so when you feel angry the law of attraction will bring to you more experiences that will elicit the feeling of anger, you will attract angry people and find yourself in the middle of angry situations.

Have you ever had a day where you felt lousy, but tried to pretend that everything was OK to family, friends or co-workers? It doesn’t work does it? Your friends, family or co-workers know straight away that you are not how you are pretending to be. They may ask if something is wrong, or comment that you don’t seem to be your normal self. They pick up on the incongruence between what you are saying and your vibration. Because we are not used to explaining in terms of vibrations, they may attribute their knowing to something more mundane like tone of voice or body language, but even people without the full use of their senses can detect this type of in congruence. 

To sum up, you are sending out vibrations every moment of every day. Those vibrations are a mix of your thoughts and feelings and they affect everything around you. At the same time you are also receiving and translating the vibrations of everything around you (which can, in turn, affect your vibration by how you react to them). Now that we understand vibration, let’s look at how it interacts with the law of attraction.

Law of Attraction

The law of attraction, simply put, means energy attracts like energy. You may also have heard it expressed as “like attracts like’, “that which is like unto itself is drawn” and even “thoughts become things”.

The law of attraction is at work in your life every minute of every day. Your vibrations are constantly being broadcast to, and received, by the universe. This activates the law of attraction which then matches your vibrations and attracts to you similar vibrations in the form of people, things and situations in your life. In other words you are always creating your life through your thoughts and feelings. The conditions in your life, whether they are what you want or not, are always a match to your dominant vibrations.

The law of attraction, like all the universal laws, operates whether you are aware of it or not, or believe it or not. The often-used terms “what you focus on grows”, “careful what you wish for (cause you just might get it)”, “birds of a feather flock together” and “you can’t get enough of what you don’t want” are all examples of ways that we describe the law of attraction in action.

So, the question becomes – if your life is not how you would wish it to be, how do you change it? And the answer most often given by law of attraction and personal development teachers is a simple one – change your thoughts.

Simple – yes, but not easy. Here’s why.

Somewhere between 94 – 98% of all thoughts are subconscious, that is, below or out of conscious awareness which means that only 2 – 6% of your thoughts are ever conscious. So, even if you managed to change all of your conscious thoughts to be positive, that still leaves an awful lot of subconscious thought, at least some of which would be negative, vibrating away in the background without you even being aware of it! If you’re having trouble creating what you want in life, chances are your subconscious mind is at fault.

In our next article we will explore the subconscious mind and how it can interfere with your Law of Attraction efforts.

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About the Author

Yvonne Ellis has been studying personal and spiritual development for over 20 years. She teaches and coaches in these areas and is co-author of the website AttractLikeMagicwhere you’ll find loads of information about the Law of Attraction and the Universal Laws including free eBooks to start off or enhance your Law of Attraction library.

Nothing is more exciting than finding your true self and living life as who you really are from the inside/out.  It is so easy to become someone other than who we were born to be simply because of the experiences we have in life and the direction and guidance of those around us.  Depending on our beginnings and whether we have good parents or not so good parents, over protective parents, or religious parents, we can become stripped of our authentic self early in life before we even get started.  However, once we become of age; we have the power to choose what we want to believe and who we want to be. Once we become adults, we have the right and the responsibility to discover life for ourselves.

Even if we have a difficult childhood or negative experiences in life growing up, we can take ownership of our inner power and make the choice to return  to our magnificent and authentic self as we were meant to be.  On the other hand, we can choose to be tainted or jaded by the negative experiences and/or the sometimes not so good guidance from our well meaning life teachers.  We can choose to remain bound by other people’s opinions of us and who they think we should be; never ever learning to live life on our own terms, but living life to please all others.

The road to self awareness can be difficult at first.  Often the people in our lives will try and  refuse us the right to change simply because they are used to us being one way.  If you choose to change, your close family and friends may be forced to take a look at their own lives, and maybe they have no desire to do so.  Often family members or friends can feel intimidated by our choosing to be someone other than who they are used to us being.  However, little do they know how much more they stand to benefit from our finding our true self and living the life we desire to live within our authentic self.  The choice to become self aware can often look like selfishness on our part.  Especially in the beginning simply because it consists of us learning to put our own well being first and before all others.  Most of us have grown up believing that being selfish is a bad thing.  However, it is not always a bad thing.  It is also necessary for creating balance, self preservation and over all well being which is each person’s birth right.

There is great joy and happiness that comes along with being your authentic self. The need to put on airs or to pretend to be someone other than who you really are becomes less and less.  Feelings of awkwardness and unworthiness begin to vanish when you realize that you are special and adored by the Universe.  Self awareness teaches us to love ourselves and to appreciate who we are regardless of what others might think of us and imparts a peace and harmony in our lives that is priceless.  It becomes easier to choose your authentic self because it feels so good to just be who you really are.

Meditation is the greatest way to find that special sanctuary that we all hold within us.  Meditation can help us to enter into self awareness with ease.  It becomes easier to create balance in your life as you observe the chaos or disorganization in your life become order and balance.  In the end, finding our authentic self is what we are here to do.  It is our right to sift through the excess to reveal our true self in order to find peace and happiness.  If we wait on others to release us to find our authentic self, it will never happen.  However, if we take courage along with us on this path of exploration, we discover life in new and exciting ways that we never knew existed.

As women, we often deal with a wide range of emotions on a very regular basis.  We are often labeled as over emotional by men and for some this is very true.  If we are not in control of our emotions, they can take control of us, showing up at some of the most inconvenient times.  Some women try to use their emotions to their advantage such as crying to get their way in a relationship, but often this kind of manipulation backfires and can lead to a man becoming insensitive to a female’s display of tears.  Also, at the time of our menstrual cycle, a woman’s emotions can run high.  If she is not very self aware, emotions at this time of month can be extremely difficult ranging from sadness, to depression and even rage.  For the most part, we as women, learn to be emotional as young girls and if we are not careful, can become extreme in how we relate to our emotions.  Learning the value and power of emotions is key to the quality of life we live and is essential to our personal security and freedom.

As women, being free with our emotions is very much a part of who we are and therefore, it is very easy for us to invest our emotions into whatever we do, such as our relationships, friendships, work or play.   We freely offer our emotions, often in every situation we encounter without counting the cost to our own quality of life.  Then there are times when we have been taught to ignore our emotions.  I can remember being part of a church in my younger years, where I was taught not to follow my feelings, to ignore my feelings but to follow only the bible no matter what my feelings were on any given topic.  I was taught that the bible was the final answer to all things no matter the question and that feelings or emotions only served to hinder the work of God;  that I must learn to obey the bible and ignore my feelings for the sake of being obedient and having faith.  This inevitably taught me to blindly follow church leaders no matter if they were right or wrong on an issue, which caused me a lot of inner turmoil and confusion.  I later learned to question anything that disturbed my peace of mind and that if it didn’t feel right to me, it wasn’t right for me.

When we give or spend our emotions on negativity,  freely and even frivolously, not realizing the value of emotions, we are often very unhappy and disapointed  with our lives.  Yet, we do not realize that we have created our unhappiness through our emotions.  We don’t realize that we are paying a high price for spending our emotions where they are not valued or worth our energy.  Such as being angry with a coworker for saying something offensive or road rage or even being upset with your partner for being late coming home from work.  These are little things we often try to control with our emotions, however, they more than likely make circumstances worse or cause us to create more opportunities to experience negative feelings.  Choosing to feel good and not allowing  circumstances to dictate your behavior is true freedom and power.

Emotions are a very important part of our life for they serve as our compass or barometer; giving us insight on what we like or dislike.  They also teach us how to distinguish between what feels right for us in any given situation.  Ignoring emotions is a very dangerous thing to do, for they can signal us as to when we are near danger. When we learn to ignore our emotions, we are in essence learning to ignore our inner guidance system.  This can lead to emotional manipulation by others since if you choose to ignore your own guidance system, one can easily be steered in any direction by those who choose to manipulate you because you have learned in essence not to trust your own self or inner guidance. There is an old saying, “Hindsight is 20/20″, meaning that when we look back on situations, we are often able to see them more clearly.  Often in hindsight, you can also more than likely recall feelings or nudges in your emotions that were attempts at gentle guidance but when we ignore our emotions, we learn to drown out this kind of intuition.

Being in touch with our emotions allows us the advantage of good energy vibration and alignment.  When we are aligned with positive energy, we are able to create the reality of our dreams by choosing positive thoughts and feelings to focus our intentions on.  This is where understanding the law of attraction and how it works becomes so very very powerful in our lives.  The law of attraction brings to us that which we are, therefore, it is of the utmost importance that we deliberately choose what we think and how we feel at all times.  Since the law of attraction is always in effect, we are always getting what we think about and what we feel about, whether we want it or not.  What we think and feel creates our energy vibration and the law of attraction manifests the results.

Understanding the power of emotions is the first step in creating a better life.  The best way too proactively manage our emotions is to eliminate those circumstances that do not serve us or promote our best self.  If this is not yet possible, the second best option is to choose better feeling thoughts.  It is amazing sometimes how good we are at encouraging a friend or family member when they are dealing with difficulty, yet we are often unable to do so for ourselves.  Gentle self talk can be a very effective way to stay positive and to keep our thoughts and emotions positive when going through difficult times.  Understanding that your ability to feel good is the essence of  a more positive and abundant life is a game changer.  When we understand how much of ourselves or our future happiness we give away when we choose to think and feel negatively about someone or something, then we can begin to change these behaviors gradually with practice.  We can positively create our reality by deliberately choosing to only give of our value and power when it is in our best interest to do so…

Whenever you say the word Goddess… some people; actually a lot of people think immediately that your speaking of sexuality.  They often think about the Greek Goddess Aphrodite, the Goddess of Love and Beauty; or some may think of her as the sexual Goddess of the planet Venus.  However, those of us who do our research, we know that their are many other Goddesses that not only exist but deserve due respect and honor as we celebrate the Goddess within.

Feminine energy is that which creates worlds.  Without the female energy there is no existence of life; since we are the physical creator of life and breath for all life in existence on the planet Earth.  For many centuries the female energy has been discounted or down played as only a help meet or a support to the male energy.  The very thought that the female energy is equal to the male energy can send some people into an emotional tail spin.  Creating anger and discord on various levels.  Yet, both the male and female energies are but one half of the whole.  Additionally, through out centuries on this planet, the Goddess has been present as a integral means to manifestations of Love, Prosperity, Abundance, Protection, Peace and much more.

There are many women who feel pressure from society to be married and procreate and if they don’t, some allow themselves to feel like they are not a complete woman.  This leads to a society of women who believe they are nothing more than the physical form that exist on this planet.  Yet, the female energy is so much more and has the ability to create on so many levels of life.  As we celebrate the Goddess within, it is up to each of us to discover our gifts and talents through self love and self care.  Love is the answer to all things and must first be directed within if we are to know how to appropriately express it without.

As we remember to appreciate and celebrate our femininity, we as women must not only respect and honor the process of life that we give but we must restore to ourselves the consciousness and power to which we create life within and without.  Realizing that the essence and power of the Goddess lives within each one of us, individually and also as the collective female energy.  Each of us have the responsibility and right to self love and self care so that we can be the gift and light that each of us were born to be.   As the physical form of feminine energy our roles of creating and manifesting life does not only exist by giving birth to a child but also giving birth to all forms of Life, Love and Abundance for the energy of the Goddess is more than just that of the physical form.   Our task is to discover our gifts and callings so that we may use them to bless and expand the world.

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