As women, we are often begrudged for shedding tears. Most likely because they can be used to make men feel guilty or sometimes manipulate men into giving in to our sometimes highly emotional demands. However, crying when used effectively and appropriately has great benefits to women. Many women learn to shy away from crying simply because we do not like to feel or seem weak. However, I believe that crying has a real benefit to us as nurtures and is uniquely connected to our feminine power.
The Definition of Crying
The best and most intelligent definition for crying, I could fine was located at Askville.com which states that crying is to shed tears as a response to an emotional state in humans. The act of crying has been defined as “a complex secretomotor phenomenon characterized by the shedding of tears from the lacrimal apparatus, without any irritation of the ocular structures”. The medical term for this is to lacrimate, which also refers to non-emotional shedding of “tears”.
Most other definitions defined crying as claimant, demanding attention; abominable; reprehensible: a crying shame, which depicts a very male perceived definition in my opinion since it lacks real explanation. Personally, the only thing I believe the Askville.com definition leaves out is that crying is an emotional and psychological cleansing of toxins in the body as well as a release of toxic thoughts. This cleansing can aid the body in its ability to heal itself and be restored.
A Time and A Place for Everything
It is never appropriate to cry in a business setting. There is no room for tears in the board room. This just gives the appearance of a lack of emotional intelligence no matter the reason, and can often cause mixed emotions and confusion for those who may have to witness a woman shedding tears. Some women also often cry too much or inappropriately when faced with confrontation within personal interactions with their spouses. Eventually, a woman’s tears become of no value to men when they are always free flowing with an abundance of emotion. Men eventually see the tears as a ploy of women to get what they want and can actually back fire when used in this way.
Tears are best released during alone time, most preferably during meditation or prayer. Taking time for you when faced with difficulties in life is the key to centering yourself in order to find the appropriate answers you seek in any situation. When we take the time to get into a quite place, this promotes healing and replenishment and most often enlightenment. I am not talking about having a pity party but having a good cry then finding Clarity in Stillness.
Crying can also strengthen our resolve as women when faced with difficult events in our lives by fortifying our determination. Of course, you don’t always need to cry to reach this level of determination; neither do you always need to cry during meditation. However, if you are in tune with your body, you know when your stress levels are too high and are in need of an emotional release. If you are a person of high emotions and/or when you find yourself having too high stress levels due to circumstances, you should find crying as a form of release to be very beneficial.
Celebrate your Feminity
Our gifts of nurturing, as women, are divinely connected to our femininity. We must not forget to honor our feminine power for when we do, our femininity will honor us and give us the strength we need when needed the most. When women hold in negative emotions or have experienced a lot of negative emotions from a traumatic childhood or past relationships, they often can lead to physical ailments like uterine fibroids or even breast cancer and other illnesses.
Negative emotions can also affect our sex lives and simply our overall happiness and peace of mind. This is because the negative emotions must be released somehow. Why not choose to release all negativity by taking the time to enter the stillness of your sanctuary, to cleanse and renew your inner being. And if you feel like having a good cry, go for it..